You don't have to
do everything.
Just one thing.
If something at home doesn't feel right, you're in the right place. This site walks with you in three small steps. You can stop at any point, and nothing you read here is saved.
Not sure? "Help me choose" asks a few gentle questions, or lets you type what's happening in your own words.
If you're in danger right now
Call 999. Can't speak? Press 55 on a mobile when the call connects. Free, 24/7 helpline: 0808 2000 247.
How this works
Three steps, in the order most survivors need them. Go at your own pace. Many people stay on step 1 for a long time, and that's okay.
- 1
Right now
Get safe, get heard
Put your safety first and put a name to what's happening. You don't need proof, a lawyer, or a plan to start here.
- Talk to someone safeFree, confidential helplines and specialist services who believe you.
- Is this abuse?Abuse isn't only hitting. Control, threats, money and mind games count too.
- Control and stalkingWhat coercive control and stalking look like, and that both are crimes.
- 2
This week
Make a plan
When you have a quiet, safe moment. These steps build your safety quietly, without anyone else needing to know.
- Start a private recordWhat to write down and keep, so your account is clear if you ever need it.
- Protect your childrenKeeping children safe, and what professionals mean by 'significant harm'.
- Check for free legal helpMany survivors can get legal aid, even with a job or savings.
- 3
When you're ready
Take action
Only if and when you choose to. Pick one route, get advice, and go at your own pace.
- Report to the policeWhat the police must do, and what to do if you're not taken seriously.
- Apply for a court orderOrders that stop contact or keep them out of your home.
- If an order is brokenWhat to write down and tell the police when they break an order.
When you want the detail
Reference library
The full law and legal tests, for survivors who want to read it, and for friends, family or professionals supporting them.
Information only. This is not legal advice. Court procedures and the law change. Always confirm with a solicitor, Citizens Advice, or a domestic abuse advocate before acting.